Is there some kind of unspoken rule about not working with your significant other? Because the look of horror I’m given when I tell people that not only do I work for the same company as Andy, but we work in the SAME ROOM!
What, what, what????
Yep. My name is Nic Tuxford and I spend every single working hour in the presence of my husband. And we don’t want to kill each other.
Super gushy photo, I apologise, but the Nic and Andy snap is a rare find.
This is not the first time we’ve worked for the same company. It’s the third. I’m not even kidding, we have worked for three completely different companies at the same time. It’s like he’s stalking me! (He’s not stalking me)
We’re similar people in terms of our work ethic, our preferences, and our wishes. So I think this is how we’ve always ended up in the same place. We’ve usually worked for different departments. And before we worked remotely, we were in different offices.
In September of 2016, we both started working remotely full-time. Many people were worried this would be the fuel to the flames of ridiculous bickering and sulking. Concerned bystanders thought we’d get sick of one another. However, by magic, we’re not trying to smother each other with pillows! ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? We’re the same as we’ve always been.
How do we manage to work together and live together?
Here’s the trick – we like each other. It’s that simple. We both enjoy each others company. We can have a sensible conversation without insulting one another.
We also have different hobbies, so our evenings don’t always mean we’re attached at the hip. Andy likes gaming and I like watching trashy TV and drinking wine. It’s a match made in heaven!
The tough stuff
The most difficult thing about working remotely with your husband is leaving work at the office. Sometimes we’ll be cooking dinner and the conversation will move on to the topic of a mutual campaign or a new idea. And before you know it, the kitchen has become a boardroom and we’re in a fully fledged planning meeting.
We both make a big effort to minimalise these moments though. And unless it’s something that can’t wait, one of us will pipe up and say leave it until the morning.
The good stuff
Well, we never have to listen to each other drone on about their working day! Because we were both there. And we always know when one of us has had a bad moment, so we can be totally supportive of one another.
It’s also super helpful with the kids because we know each other’s schedules. So whoever has the lightest schedule gets to deal with “emergencies”.
And tough moments at work are just easier. If I’ve got a difficult task I know Andy will keep me sane. If I’ve got a long day ahead of me I know he will help me out. I also know I can have a good rant to him just to get something off my chest and it will be long forgotten by the following day.
Working with somebody who knows you better than you know yourself is a gift.
Hmm. To be honest, we’re not huge planners. We don’t do “goals” or “targets”. Essentially we take what works for us and enjoy it. And when it stops working for us, then we find a way to fix it. I think I can speak for both of us when I say we’re incredibly happy with our environment right now. Working together has far more pros than cons.
No more babies or dogs though. The house is bursting at the seams!!
Maybe we should write a book or something….